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Emotional / Intimacy Anorexia Coaching
(Confidential • Faith-Based)
Virtual sessions available nationwide

Emotional anorexia is a pattern of emotional avoidance—staying “shut down” on the inside even when you care deeply—where a man may look functional, busy, or “fine,” but protects himself from vulnerability by disconnecting from feelings, needs, and honest engagement; it often shows up as withdrawal, silence, defensiveness, constant distraction (work/phone), difficulty expressing affection, and a low tolerance for emotional tension, which slowly starves marriage and friendships of warmth, empathy, and safety so life becomes logistics instead of intimacy; it’s a “hidden monster” because it can look like personality, strength, or even spiritual maturity, when it’s usually fear-based (fear of exposure, rejection, criticism, control, or inadequacy) and may be tied to trauma, family patterns, shame, addiction history, betrayal, or secrecy—yet recovery changes everything as you stop living guarded and start living present.

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Who this is for?

  • You feel emotionally shut down, numb, or disconnected, even when you want to feel close

  • You avoid vulnerability, conflict, or hard conversations by withdrawing, shutting down, or staying “busy”

  • Your spouse or loved ones say you feel distant, cold, or unavailable

  • You struggle to express feelings, needs, or affection without feeling unsafe, weak, or exposed

  • You want to rebuild trust and emotional closeness, but you don’t know how to start

  • You have a history of addiction, secrecy, porn use, or betrayal that damaged connection in your relationship

  • You are willing to do the work with humility, structure, and accountability

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How can Wingman Recovery Help?

In coaching, we work on practical steps to help you:

  • Identify the patterns that keep you emotionally “walled off”

  • Understand fear, shame, control, anger, and avoidance as signals—not just “personality”

  • Build emotional awareness (what you feel, why you feel it, and what to do with it)

  • Learn how to communicate needs, boundaries, and truth without shutting down or exploding

  • Rebuild trust through consistent honesty and follow-through

  • Develop healthy intimacy skills: presence, empathy, responsiveness, and affection

  • Create a clear plan for relapse prevention if sexual sin/addiction has been part of the story

  • Strengthen spiritual habits that support transformation (Scripture, prayer, confession, community)

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What coaching looks like? (simple 3-step process)

Step 1: Clarify your story and your goals
We identify what’s happening now, what you’ve tried, and what “healthy connection” needs to look like in your life and marriage.

Step 2: Build a practical plan (tools + accountability)
You’ll get clear assignments each week—small, doable actions that build emotional strength over time. We track progress, obstacles, and triggers.

Step 3: Practice new patterns until they become your new normal
We work on communication, connection, and follow-through. You learn how to stay emotionally present, even when it feels uncomfortable.

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What makes Wingman different?

​Wingman Recovery Coaching is confidential, structured, and action-oriented. I work with men who are tired of repeating the same cycles and are ready for real change. My approach combines practical recovery tools with faith-based transformation—because lasting freedom requires more than willpower; it requires truth, humility, accountability, and new habits that rebuild trust over time. And I don’t just teach this from a textbook—I’ve personally recovered from emotional anorexia, so I’m living proof that real healing and restored connection are possible.

FAQ

  • What is intimacy or emotional anorexia?
    Emotional anorexia is a pattern of avoiding emotional closeness—often by withdrawing, shutting down, staying busy, or refusing vulnerability. It can leave a spouse feeling lonely even inside a marriage.

  • Is this the same as intimacy anorexia?
    They’re closely related. Intimacy anorexia often includes emotional, spiritual, and sometimes sexual withholding. Emotional anorexia focuses more specifically on the emotional disconnection and avoidance patterns that block closeness.

  • Do you work with married couples or just individuals?
    Most coaching starts with the individual, because change begins with personal responsibility. When appropriate, we can discuss a plan that supports the marriage as well (including joint sessions if desired).

  • Is coaching the same as counseling or therapy?
    No. Coaching is not therapy and does not diagnose or treat mental health disorders. Coaching is forward-focused, practical, and accountability-driven—helping you build new skills and consistent habits for healthy connection and recovery.

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